Interference of Indian in-laws

In-law interference in husband-wife relationship is a common social issue in India, especially in the joint family system. This interference depends on many factors, such as family traditions, cultural background, education level and personal thinking.

Reasons for In-law Interference in India

1. Joint family tradition:-Many families in India still live jointly, due to which in-laws have an influence in daily life.

2. Family prestige and control :-In many families, parents believe that the decisions of the son or daughter-in-law should be under their control even after marriage.

3. Traditional thinking and gender inequality:-Often a tendency to have more control over the daughter-in-law is seen, which affects the husband-wife relationship.

4. Economic dependence:-If the husband or wife is financially dependent on the family, then the interference of in-laws may increase.

5. Emotional attachment:-Parents are often highly emotionally attached to the son, due to which they may feel unnecessary competition with the daughter-in-law.

Possible effects

1. Marital tension:-If the interference of the in-laws becomes excessive, then the estrangement between the husband and wife can increase.

2. Situation of separation:- In some cases, one of the spouses gets so upset that they decide to live separately.

3. Mental pressure on the woman :- Many times the daughter-in-law has difficulty in balancing family expectations and her marital relationship.

4. Husband's conflict:-Many men are unable to balance between parents and wife, which can lead to further tension in the relationship.

Solutions and ways to better harmony

1. Set boundaries:-The husband and wife should clarify which decisions are their personal and outside interference in them will not be acceptable.

2. Promote open communication:-If the interference of the in-laws is feeling excessive, then communicate politely and clarify the problem.

3. Develop the habit of taking independent decisions:-Husband and wife should take decisions related to their relationship on their own, instead of depending completely on the opinion of parents.

4. Take help of counseling:-If the interference increases too much and there is tension in the relationship, then a solution can be found through family or marriage counseling.

Direction of current changes

In recent years, many couples are moving towards nuclear family, which is reducing the interference of in-laws. However, this problem still persists in families with traditional thinking.

In-law interference in the relationship between husband and wife can be a sensitive issue. This interference can take many forms—in some cases it is positive, but at times it can cause tension and conflict.

If the interference becomes too much and the relationship is under serious strain, family counseling or marriage counseling may prove helpful. Are you taking any counseling initiatives in this regard?